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Men! Women! We must raise our boys to be emotionally literate!-Sherri Rosen Publicity Intl, NYC

I am worried.

As a grandmother I am worried about how our boys are being raised. Are they being raised to be emotionally literate?

I grew up in an age where women were ignored. Where they were thought of as only good for being wives, mothers and sex objects.

The Women’s Movement changed all of that and allowed many women and their men to become more humane with one another.

During this time I was raising 4 boys, and I so wanted them to not only speak from their head, but be connected to their hearts. I encouraged

them to feel. One even got mad at me when he got older saying “why did you raise me to be so open?” That was quite shocking to me, to

have my own son, a male be angry at me for raising him to be open, but i got it. He was not understanding how to have an open heart

in a culture that only emphasized using your brain and not your heart. It’s very painful and one has to be very courageous.

When I began dating online I would see the same thing happening. Many of the men had no connection with their hearts and would constantly

speak to me from a place in their head, and if they were open hearted with me it lasted for a short amount of time and then they closed up.

What I see now is us concentrating on our girls, wanting them to be competitive in the job market, and giving them all of the opportunities

available to them, but ignoring our boys.

And I don’t see or hear us encouraging our boys to be kind, gentle, considerate, respectful and I don’t see us supporting our little boys to have

an open heart.

We’ve always had violence in our culture, but why are we seeing so many more young boys going into schools and creating the most violent of

acts shooting their contemporaries or little children. We seemed to have ignored our little boys asking them what’s wrong if they are crying, but

telling them to manup and stop crying. Why aren’t we encouraging them that they don’t have to all go to top schools, but can go to tech schools

and still get a good education, make decent money and have a good life.

Why do we tell our little boys to manup, when what they need is for us to sit with them and find out where they are at and what’s wrong.

So many parents have been wounded themselves in their own upbringing (who hasn’t), and why haven’t they taken the time to find out what

they can change within themselves so they don’t repeat the same mistakes that were done to them? Why do they feel money will take care of everything?

I do see many more men involved in their children’s upbringing, but you cannot be there physically without showing up emotionally.

If your little boy is crying and you are once again telling him to “manup and stop crying” or telling him “you must never show your emotions in front of anyone because that’s a sign of weakness,” where

does it leave him as a member of our society? If you are so busy working, traveling, to give him everything you never had, what messages are you sending to your boys? “The only

thing I can give to you is material possessions and you must always be the provider and you must never show when you are weak and falling apart.

Look at all of those men in our Congress. They are not representing us? Their message to us and our little boys is that greed rules.

Lots of single men are now raising children, many gay men and women are raising children, and with all that we have gone through as a culture, and with all of

the changes we have made don’t you think it’s time to devote more time to our boys and show them not only how to be a man, but how to be a man with an open heart? (brave new concept)

The old ways of raising our boys aren’t working. And with the advancement of technology it does not encourage verbal communication. It encourages communication

but at what cost of having an emotionally intimate conversation with another human being. If we don’t teach our boys to be emotionally literate they will never

learn about compassion, and what kind of society will we have then?.

I'm Worried!

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