Raising children as a single parent
For whatever reason you are a single parent raising children is a huge challenge!
Perhaps you just decided to have a baby on your own, through a sperm cell donor, divorce, death of a partner, it ain’t easy. If you don’t have a powerful support system in place either with financially hiring people, family doesn’t get along, parents don’t get along, or absentee father or mother, it can be a b*tch.
When I made my decision of splitting my l3-year marriage with 2 young children to take care of, it was mainly because of an absentee father. I felt totally responsible to now not only be the mother but the dad as well. As a result I’ve always wanted to be their for my children, but I forgot, who was going to be there for me. As a result, It has been a consistent in my life until just recently, that the deal of partnership in whatever form, works both ways.
It’s not helpful for children to see one parent doing everything and taking responsibility for everything. It doesn’t give the right message about family and working together. Of course if a mom or dad is in the picture and is supportive, it makes much less of a strain, but only if both are on the same page. Kids have a bullsh*t detector when the truth isn’t there.
Plus, if one parent remarries and the children are in different households and there are different messages being given, it can get totally confusing. My children didn’t like their father’s 2nd wife, and whenever they came back from being with them, it would take days for them to calm down their aggression. His 2nd wife was mean to my children, so it was difficult to even allow the children to visit, but I did not want to stop them from having a relationship with their dad-absent or not.
Most of us don’t have great role models in our own families growing up. Some of us might not even had access to our mother and father for whatever reason. So usually one has to learn the hard way in child rearing. Hopefully, there will be enough kicks in the butt to wakeup if we are doing the wrong thing on behalf of our children.
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